Seven months old!
My little one is seven months old aleady. It seems like just yesterday he was still inside of me…
What do you say about a sequel that feels like a (2-hour-long) gag reel for the first movie? That is exactly what “Meet the Fockers” feels like. It is funny…in places. Otherwise, it is just a rehash of everything int he first movie. There are predictable jokes about Ben Stiller’s name - Gaylord Focker - his profession, his fear of De Niro, De Niro’s uptightness, the “circle of trust”, “I am watching you”…you know, the usual with a generous helping of Dustin Hoffman as Stiller’s hippie lawyer-stay-at-home-dad Bertie and Barbra Streisand as his not-as-kooky-as-she-looks sex-therapist mom.
You can tell from the movie that the actors had a great time making it. Everyone of them except Teri Polo (De Niro’s little Pam Cakes, who wants to marry to Stiller) look like they are about to crack up laughing - even stiff-looking De Niro. Unfortunately, not all of it translates to the audience. Overall, it is a good film to watch if you are just bored and looking for 2 hours of fun that will let your brain take a total rest.
I met the guys who will replace me at the end of March 2005 today. My contract will be up March 31st and there will not be an extension since the contract positions have now officially been outsourced to an Indian consulting firm. A few of the firm’s consultants are here to learn the job from us. I am not too broken up over it since I know I can find another job in three months and it was only a contract position anyways. Now, if I were asked to help mentor these guys so they could make me redundant though, it will be another matter completely. I don’t hate these guys for my company’s decision - it is not their fault. Will I lift a finger to help them? No way!
Update: I was prepared to leave at the end of my contract anyways, so I don’t really care about this. What I do care about is the single mom of two kids who will not get an extension because of this - the guy who had a new baby and is the sole earner in the family - different people, different stories and shattered hopes - I cannot just sit here and see all these people depressed and demoralized because some CEO decided we were just numbers on a chart and not react to it. I am not thinking in abstract here. I feel the pain of these people I work with. My husband will feed me if I am out of work. A lot of these people don’t have the same kind of support network to hold them up. What of them?
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24th December: Yazad
January:
31st December/Jan 1st: MadMan
7th January: Nilesh
14th January: Prasenjeet
21st January: Ravages
28th January: Ravikiran
February:
3rd February: Fadereu
10th February: Patrix
17th February: Shanti
There have been two in the news lately - one sad and one happy. I am just thrilled to pieces on the story about the world’s smallest baby who survived after being born with less weight than a coke can (imagine that!). She was 9.4 inches tall, which was less than half of what my son was at birth and he was early by 2 weeks himself. I am glad we have the technology to make miracles happen and help keep the life within a tiny being that would have had no chance a few years ago.
It also kind of makes you wonder how some people will move heaven and earth to keep a 26-week-old-pregnancy baby alive while some will do the same and more to have the right to kill an even older child since the baby is still in the mother’s womb.
As for the sad story about the expectant mom strangled so another woman could cut out her baby and pretend it was her own, it was awful. I can so see the fancies, fears, wishes and hopes the pregnant lady must have harbored in her heart for little girl, it breaks my heart to think she was killed before she could even see her baby. It is nice to see the baby is doing well after being brought into the world in such a heinous fashion, but I really feel for the mom who is not here anymore. I went through my entire pregnancy trying to imagine what my baby would be like and what it would be like the first time I saw him. I feel for anyone who had to miss out on it.
Apparently the book is finished now - Amazon.com: Books: Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince (Book 6) - we will now just have to wait until July :( to get it!
Now that you have all seen that adorable little tyke in the picture below, let me tell you how it was after he came to be. It was a pretty hurried labor - My doctor had checked me up on Monday and told me I was not ready in any way whatsoever to give birth. I started having cramps on Tuesday and by Wednesday night, the cramps became pretty rhythmic - every ten minutes. My husband and I went to the hospital early morning Thursday and they sent us back saying I was still not ready and needed another day or so.
I decided to stay home take it easy for the daya nd my husband left to work. At 2:30 in the afternoon I had gotten tired of timing the contractions so I decided I would go to bed when hell, sorry, my water broke. I needed to get to the hospital at once, but my husband was at work in a meeting 20 minutes away, so I simply got dressed and drove to the hospital with my in-laws. Once there it was the usual pandemonium and cacophony of pains, deep-breaths, screaming for my husband and ultimately the welcome hush brought to you courtesy of “Epidural”. I swear, all the people on my floor must have heaved a sigh of relief after all the ruckus I made.
At about 7:00, I started throwing up (yeah, I am the queen of throwing up - my hangovers suck!) and the nurses realized it was time to push - there was three hours of that interrupted occasionally by cell-phone calls to my husband from people at work asking for help - I am not making this up, he was taking calls while holding my feet and helping me push - he had to tell them he was in the middle of his wife’s frigging delivery before they would hang up. Well, it was about 10:20 already and the doctor had had it with me. She told me it was two more pushes - my son had to come out or she was cutting me up for a caesarian.
Next push, the little head was out enough to be vaccuumed out, which was when we discovered he had wrapped the umbilical cord around his neck that was preventing him from coming out. Of course, it seems like a little thing now, but it freaked me out then to realize how close we had come to choking the poor little one before we finally got him out.
That though folks, was just the beginning. It was the beginning of a two-week-long nightmare that to me was punctuated by sleep, feeding baby, trying to eat while feeding baby, trying to sleep while feeding baby, trying to feed baby while trying to feed baby…oops, where was I again? But then that was the reality of those days - the little bundle of joy did only three things - eat, sleep and poop - and did them on an hourly basis. 24/7. Even the most patient, mommy-like people can get exasperated by all this.
Husbands, if you have any compassion at all, please do not piss off your women during this time. Try to do everything they ask you to do - no more, no less. Remember that there is a lot of hormonal fluctuation going on and emotionally and physically it is a roller-coaster ride that only a woman who has been through this can truly imagine. Another piece of advice would be - don’t take anything personal. Seriously, you might start wondering why she hates you so much but it is not really you - it is the hormones talking. Remember the voices talking through the girl in Exorcist? Kinda like that. Take the baby away from her for a few hours a day - let her rest - it might help save your marriage.
More on this the next installment.
My little one is seven months old aleady. It seems like just yesterday he was still inside of me…
I mean seriously, you have all probably heard Kobe hinting all over town that Karl Malone tried to hit on his wife. Quoted below is the entire text of that so-called hitting-on session.
FOXSports.com - NBA - Deion rips Kobe for taking Malone feud publicThe recent Malone-Bryant feud boiled over when Vanessa Bryant told her husband on Nov. 23 that Malone had made inappropriate comments to her that night at the game at Staples Center.At worst, I think this is harmless flirting - at best, a frigging joke. Kobe must have been out of his mind trying to make a mountain of this molehill. At best, he is trying to make his wife feel desirable again by implying other men are hitting on her - her desirability must have taken quite a hit after revelations of his numerous infidelities, y’know! I think the dud just needs to shut up and grow up. He has made more enemies int he league since his rape allegations than anyone else…that too, people who atleast publicly stood by him and had his back. Not cool in the least.The comments in question reportedly happened after Vanessa invited Malone to sit with her in the second half of that game. Malone, decked out in a cowboy hat and boots, went over and gave Vanessa Bryant a hug.
“Who are you hunting?” Vanessa reportedly asked when she saw Malone’s outfit.
“Little Mexican girls,” Malone responded.
And when that comment was relayed to Kobe, he called Malone and reportedly vowed to “(mess) him up” if he ever went near his wife again.
“Karl and his son were at the game sitting in the front row,” Pelinka said. “Vanessa was on the cell phone talking to Karl’s wife, Kay, and Vanessa said that her son looked bored. Kay told her to call Karl to have her son join her in her seats. Kay gave Vanessa Karl’s cell number and she called him. When she called, Karl’s response was, ‘Why don’t you come over here and sit next to me and give me a big hug?’ Vanessa said, ‘Why? For what?’ And Karl replied, ‘If you do that it will be on the cover of every magazine in the country.’If the new version is true, then Karl Malone is a true lech and is a horrible human being to hit on a woman who is already going through a tough time.“Vanessa didn’t know what to say because this was the first time she had ever spoken to Malone without Kobe or Kay being around. Karl continued. ‘Do you like me?’ Malone asked her, to which Vanessa said, ‘As my friend, Kay’s husband,’ ” Pelinka said.
“From there Malone asked Vanessa if she could keep a secret, and that he would like to tell her something. At which point Vanessa told him she was a married woman and he was a married man who was old enough to be her father. To which Malone replied, ‘Oh, like your daddy?’ At that point she told me she ended the conversation,” Pelinka said.
This was going to be another living in the moment segment but my son kept me up most of last night so I am too sleepy to write anything coherent - of course, now that I am a mom, I feel guilty about saying my son kept me up when in reality I kept him up by not putting his diaper on right. The poor thing was wet and miserable for a while before I did the smart thing to actually check the bed and feel the wetness (his nightgown was fleece and I couldn’t tell it was wet). Yep, that was me, dumbest mom of the year!
Oh well, the little one seems to be doing fine otherwise - he is teething, so it is a 24/7 drool-fest. He will bite anything and everything he can reach including your nose, your chin and your fingers. All you can see sometimes when you pick him up is a big, open mouth trying to grab your chin. He also loves playing with my hair and leaves it “Edwards Scissorhands”-esque once he done with it.
I got my green-card approval a week ago and I am getting my passport stamped on the 14th. I am happy I don’t have to deal with the H-1 baggage anymore.
My husband and I are going to be at the Mavs-Seattle Sonics basketball game this evening. He got really good tickets in the 115 row from his boss - I am hoping I will not fall asleep half-way through the game…
There is an update/correction to my post replying to Dilip D’Souza about my feelings on Gujarat. Check it out!
There will be a new living in the moment post this afternoon or tomorrow time permitting.
This post is really inspired by MadMan. He pointed me to a post by a certain Indian blogger describing in detail the peephole-video he saw of an Indian actress caught bathing in her bathroom. I told him I was more offended that the said blogger was married and was watching this kind of stuff than by anything else. MadMan wanted an explanation and here it goes. Now that you know what is going to be in the post, if you think it will offend your delicate sensibilities, don’t read any further.
Few things to make clear - I don’t think watching porn is wrong - it just depends on the circumstance. For an unmarried person (man or woman) there are few avenues of guilt-free sexual satisfaction in India and porn is probably the best way to go about it given you don’t hurt anyone else and there is no danger of STDs and such. One thing though is the problem if getting used to sex as a pure biological need without any sense of affection or love associated with it, which could cause you problems when you are in a relationship later on.
When you are married (again, regardless of if you are a man or a woman), you have someone already you can share your passion with. I also don’t find it a problem when couples watch porn together to spice up their sex life - absolutely fine as long as both the parties know what they are getting into and they are both happy with it. My problem of course, occurs when a husband (I have seen it most of the time with men) watches this stuff by himself. I consider it mental infidelity.
Why would I think such thing? What about appreciating a beautiful woman on the road? in a movie? on the beach?
There is a big difference in the situations. As a woman and wife, this is how I see it. Catching an occasional sight of a half-naked or a fully-naked woman on a beach or in a movie while you are just passing by or browsing through is natural and normal. You cannot expect someone to go through their life with blinders on. When the same person actively seeks out said naked women by ordering a PPV movie, watching porn or constantly visiting beaches for the express purpose of ogling the women, then there is a problem.
I call the above behavior mental infidelity since the people mentioned above have not done anything wrong physically - they never probably touched the women they were ogling. They have touched them mentally - they have used these other women and porn to titillate themselves in their mind. I find this wrong on many levels for a married man. Firstly, it shows this man doesn’t find his wife attractive enough to make him passionate anymore if he needs to rely on something else to turn him on. Secondly, how long before these fantasies intrude in his sex life with his wife where he is sleeping with someone while thinking about something else? At this point his lovemaking with his wife is turned into an exercise for ejaculation without any real sense of intimacy that is required to strengthen the bonds of relationship. Simple as that, which is why I find married men running after porn a little disturbing.
The plot bears an uncanny similarity with Sleeping With The Enemy and its Indian counterpart Agnisakshi. But if Nana Patekar and Manisha Koirala had put in wonderful performances in the latter, Diana and Shawar look like two brainless mannequins sleepwalking through their roles.
Apparently, the reviewer didn’t notice that “Ab bas” means “Enough” in English…as in JLo fleeing an abusive husband with her daughter in the movie, “Enough”…way too different from Sleeping with the Enemy or Agnisaakshi. Time to watch a few more contemporary, if forgettable flicks, Ms. Reviewer! ;)
OTOH, this piece of the review? I completely agree with -Lovemaking scenes look ill-planned, contrived and even inane. When will our Hindi film directors realise that we don’t make love with our clothes on (neither do we bathe that way! In one scene, Soumya’s passion is inflamed as she catches Karan in the shower with his underwear on!). Couldn’t these scenes be done with some discretion?
Just this one more article from the Verbal Terrorist and I promise I will stop. This is her Peace Prize acceptance speech that was pointed to me by Dina to supposedly make me see the light and accept Roy as my personal savior. Heh! ZNet |Vision & Strategy | Peace?…
A few gems from the speech, if I may quote…In 1991 US President George Bush senior mounted Operation Desert Storm. Tens of thousands of Iraqis were killed in the war. Iraq’s fields were bombed with more than 300 tonnes of depleted uranium, causing a fourfold increase in cancer among children. For more than 13 years, twenty four million Iraqi people have lived in a war zone and been denied food and medicine and clean water. In the frenzy around the US elections, let’s remember that the levels of cruelty did not fluctuate whether the Democrats or the Republicans were in the White House. Half a million Iraqi children died because of the regime of economic sanctions in the run up to Operation Shock and Awe.Note the first sentence - one fine Day George H.W. Bush woke up and decided to invade Iraq. Yep, just like that! It isn’t like Iraq invaded Kuwait and Kuwait asked for help or anything - it isn’t like her beloved UN wanted Kuwait liberated or anything. For a reknown environmentalist, I would like to know where are critiques of Saddam draining the marshes to starve the people dependent on them and causing irreparable harm to the marsh lands. What about oilwells he set on fire? Nooo…not relevant to the discussion.
A new, detailed study, fast-tracked by the Lancet medical journal and extensively peer reviewed, estimates that 100,000 Iraqis have lost their lives since the 2003 invasion. That’s one hundred halls full of people - like this one.Of course, the Lady will just forget to mention that the study actually says that they are 95% certain that the number of deaths could be anywhere between 8000-194,000…Oops or not, since her brand of people only believe in the emotion evoked by the numbers she throws around - not the factual basis. I bet the defense will be - “8000 or 194,000, they are still dead people and it is awful!”. I agree with the argument, but I wish before rushing to defend her they would admit she lied!
The head of Britain’s BBC had to step down and one man committed suicide because a BBC reporter accused the Blair administration of ‘sexing up’ intelligence reports about Iraq’s WMD programme. But the head of Britain retains his job even though his government did much more than ‘sex up’ intelligence reports. It is responsible for the illegal invasion of a country and the mass murder of its people.Again, we will of course forget to mention there was an inquiry into the Blair administration’s conduct and they did not find any “sexing up”.
Even though no weapons of mass destruction have been found in Iraq - stunning new evidence has revealed that Saddam Hussein was planning a weapons programme. (Like I was planning to win an Olympic Gold in synchronized swimming.) Thank goodness for the doctrine of pre-emptive strike. God knows what other evil thoughts he harbored - sending Tampax in the mail to American senators, or releasing female rabbits in burqas into the London underground. No doubt all will be revealed in the free and fair trial of Saddam Hussein that’s coming up soon in the New Iraq.Because as we all know that Saddam was but a cute, little fuzzy-wuzzy who absolutely never did anyone any harm. It wasn’t like he massacred Kurds by hundreds of thousands with non-existent chemical weapons - it wasn’t like he tortured people for fun or had a team of professional rapists or murdered peolpe and charged their families for the cost of bullets…let’s move on, alright? Poor non-fair-trial-getting Saddam!
Next, she goes on to point out relations between Bechtel and Saddam and the eevil Republicans - some real, most dubious or atleast circumstantial - but through it all the blame seems to lie squarely on everyone else involved except Saddam - that poor victim of his circumstances! Also, note that there is no mention of the oil-for-scandal or the UN or Germnay, France and Russia who were making money off of illegal contracts while Iraqis were starving. No, we decided more people would back us if we just painted America and Bechtel black, so we will not make any efforts to be fair or balanced.
Invaded and occupied Iraq has been made to pay out 200 million dollars in “reparations” for lost profits to corporations like Halliburton, Shell, Mobil, Nestle, Pepsi, Kentucky Fried Chicken and Toys R Us. That’s apart from its 125 billion dollar sovereign debt forcing it to turn to the IMF, waiting in the wings like the angel of death, with its Structural Adjustment program. (Though in Iraq there don’t seem to be many structures left to adjust. Except the shadowy Al Qaeda.)Hey, what about the 18 billion dollars America poured into the reconstruction? I guess it doesn’t count.
The only kind of resistance that has managed to survive is as crazed and brutal as the occupation itself. Is there space for a secular, democratic, feminist, non-violent resistance in Iraq? There isn’t really.Money quote, of course - not the fault of the poor resistance for being comprised of terrorists - blame America! Why is it that she will not mention the one good thing that came out of American invasion of Afghanistan, which was the holding of free and fair elections for the first time in decades? Shhh, we only do America-bashing here. Oh well, I will paraphrase somethign I read recently to say I fail to see how her arguments lead her to her conclusions or how people who see venom in her attackers fail to see the venom belying her flowery prose. To each his own, I guess - as for me, this is the last time I will talk about her here…I hope!
I didn’t stop arguing in the other Roy thread because I lost the argument - it was because at some point it becomes tiresome to talk past people who are waiting to switch goalposts on you and change the direction of the argument from one place to another just so they can keep arguing and never have to acknowledge you might have a point somewhere. It is absolutely tiresome to have to explain the same point over and over again to where you begin to wonder if people are talking to you for the sake of discussion or if they have already made up their minds and are trying to engage you long enough to make you “see the folly of your ways”.
Here though is a vintage gem from Roy - read on…
The Algebra of Infinite Justice | Arundhati Roy | December 2001 issue of The Progressive magazine.
In 1996, Madeleine Albright, then the U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations, was asked on national television what she felt about the fact that 500,000 Iraqi children had died as a result of economic sanctions the U.S. insisted upon. She replied that it was “a very hard choice,” but that all things considered, “we think the price is worth it.” Albright never lost her job for saying this. She continued to travel the world representing the views and aspirations of the U.S. government. More pertinently, the sanctions against Iraq remain in place. Children continue to die.No mention in the above paragraph about Saddam’s adventurism - nothing about how he could have had the sanctions lifted by complying with the UN’s mandate - nothing about the oil-for-food program that should have provided enough supplies to keep the civilians going - nada. Zilch!
Operation Enduring Freedom is being fought ostensibly to uphold the American Way of Life. It’ll probably end up undermining it completely. It will spawn more anger and more terror across the world. For ordinary people in America, it will mean lives lived in a climate of sickening uncertainty: Will my child be safe in school? Will there be nerve gas in the subway? A bomb in the cinema hall? Will my love come home tonight? Being picked off a few at a time—now with anthrax, later perhaps with smallpox or bubonic plague—may end up being worse than being annihilated all at once by a nuclear bomb.So what would have made America safer? Giving in to Al Qaeda and Taliban? Not responding to a deliberate attack on the country?
The U.S. government and governments all over the world are using the climate of war as an excuse to curtail civil liberties, deny free speech, lay off workers, harass ethnic and religious minorities, cut back on public spending, and divert huge amounts of money to the defense industry.Laying off workers as part of a conspiracy? I am sure an economy in a recession that got hit again on 9/11 had nothing to do with the lay-offs. The lady does funny real good!
Terrorism has no country. It’s transnational, as global an enterprise as Coke or Pepsi or Nike. At the first sign of trouble, terrorists can pull up stakes and move their “factories” from country to country in search of a better deal. Just like the multinationals.Those darn MNCs! Will they lay off bombing civilians and terrorizing innocent people, already!
The September 11 attacks were a monstrous calling card from a world gone horribly wrong. The message may have been written by Osama bin Laden (who knows?) and delivered by his couriers, but it could well have been signed by the ghosts of the victims of America’s old wars: the millions killed in Korea, Vietnam, and Cambodia, the 17,500 killed when Israel—backed by the U.S.—invaded Lebanon in 1982, the tens of thousands of Iraqis killed in Operation Desert Storm, the thousands of Palestinians who have died fighting Israel’s occupation of the West Bank.…because Bin Laden was so worried about the Koreans, the Vietnamese and others so much that he orchestrated the attacks, right? The Lady will again I am sure “unintentionally” leave out any mention that Operation Desert Storm came about under the auspices of the UN and because Saddam invaded Kuwait another sovereign nation - why bother with messy facts when we can just leave them out and paint a one-sided picture of the reality? Also, let us talk about Korea but not mention that South Korea backed by the US is a well-to-do industrialized nation while North Korea is a virtual torture camp. Also, she talks about Israel’s invasion of Lebanon - why is there no mention of Syria’s current occupation of Lebanon?
Technically, the Lady might be right - like I would be right if I said technically Bin Laden did not cause 9/11, you know because he was not one of the hi-jackers but just the mastermind of the plot (Chok, before you ask me how I know for sure it was him, I would point out to you he was bragging about it on video - the same way those “resistance” fighters of yours make videos and brag about them - the same way they did with Margaret Hassan - but I guess I still don’t know if they did it since they forgot including a notarized statement certifying they did it). Roy surely appeals to people who like to look at only one side of the problem and pretend that anyone rich and powerful is automatically suspicious and anyone trying to mug the rich has got to be a victim of the rich one’s oppression.
Personally, I am not afraid to admit America did as many things wrong as she did right. Roy and her ilk on the other hand prefer to only look at the dark side America and try to forget that there could be fanaticism and genuine evil that could have driven someone to attack America - not poverty. I am able to look at it with an open-mind - guess who is the one trying to make facts fit into her world view instead of trying to evolve a world view depending on the facts available? Yes, it is easy to make bombastic statements and get away with it as long as she sees there are people around who will pretend the things she doesn’t mention don’t exist but will hang on to everyone of her words excoriating her favorite whipping-boy. It doesn’t make it right.
One more thing - Ravikiran who coined the term verbal terrorist is a pro-Iraq-war Libertarian from India - Yazad who agrees with the sentiment is an anti-Iraq-war CEO of an NGO group from Mumbai and definitely not a Hindutva type being he is an atheist - MadMan is an atheist who thinks she is nuts - I am pro-Iraq-war-don’t-care-much-for-Indian-politics in US - JK thinks similarly and he is pro-Iraq-war DemocratIndependent (hates Bush) - Sameer who feels similarly is anti-Iraq-war, anti-Bush from India…what is my point? It is that just because you think Roy is a hack doesn’t mean you are pro-war or pro-BJP for that matter - I guess it is stereotyping only when someone else does it.
People give you lots of advice when you get pregnant and have a baby - take care of yourself, eat good, sleep good (whenever you can), yadda yadda yadda. The one thing most people will either not tell you or you are too miserable to notice is how important it is to live in the moment. I know it sounds very cliched, but it is very true. There are so many moments in the past 18 months that I wish I could remember a little more about…I wish I could relive again.
It starts off with the pregnancy, of course! Sure, it sucks when your daily food intake consists of 15 grapes, 2 whipped yoghurts, 3 pieces of sour candy and 10 marinated olives (don’t ask!). You are constantly hungry, nauseous or both and you are still trying to get your act together trying to be all motherly while wondering what the hell you have gotten yourself into. You find yourself wondering if you are doing the right thing - is it all worth it - weren’t you happy just by yourself - being responsible for another human being is such a scary thing!
Now when I think back to it, I wish I had remembered a little more about what it was like the first time I felt my baby move (at 12 weeks) - the first time I saw the tiny lump in my womb that would soon grow an extremely fast-beating heart that would move me to tears when I saw it on the grainy black-and-white screen - the first time I felt something else other than pure selfishness of being - the first time I fell in love with someone I had never seen in person - the first time I fell in love with a person I knew absolutely nothing about.
It is true - you hear about the constant backache, the difficulty you have with sleeping, the heartburn, all the myriad problems that are part and parcel of the pregnancy. Once it is over though, you wish you could remember a little better that first time you saw the huge head in the sonogram - when you found out it would be a boy or a girl and all of a sudden it is “my boy/girl!” when you think about the baby now - when you heard the racing heartbeat and wondered what the baby was up to - the kicks in the stomach and the tiny punches that would bulge out of you when the tiny one got excited - those times when all you had to do to find your baby was to look down at your tummy - you could speak to your baby, sing to him any time you felt like it since the baby is with you all the time!
Oh, all that extra attention you get when you are pregnant? You will miss it way more than you would imagine once it is over. Have fun while you can :)