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I’m not sure what you are getting at here. You mean to say that you would be more comfortable if everyone walked around armed to the teeth, in fear of getting r8ped/mugged/robbed ? I wholeheartedly agree with the emotion behind such a claim, but to look for a solution for this in more violence, isn’t going to get us anywhere as a society. The b8stards who do this, should be put away for good - but then again, I wonder how many will be enough to set an example ?

I agree that the second person has misplaced most of the blame, but not all of it. Those are factors contributing to the rise of all kinds of crime in our nation and any other for that matter. Sexual crimes are easily positioned as crimes of only individuals and not of environment (and in most cases that is the truth). But society and circumstances do play a major role. How else do we explain the fundamental decline in the moral stance of the people ?

Vignesh, I applaud the fact that the woman who wrote the letter is willing to take personal responsibility to fix the problem - that is a good start as opposed to waiting for the Government to do everything.

As for the guy, it is definitely true that a person is a product of his environment, but that doesn’t excuse anything. I wish he had blamed the people who do it as much as he tried to shift the blame around.

But society and circumstances do play a major role.
No. I don’t buy that. Though I would say that its really more about the attitudes. As long as people justify r*pes by citing page-3 culture, poverty, desperation etc, we will never have a safe and secure society for women. I think its an ill-effect, in part, of a socialist mindset, which is ever-ready to give the culprit a “benefit of doubt”. No matter what, social circumstances can never justify a crime. Poverty cannot justify robbing or kidnapping, desperation cannot justify r*ping or killing, and so on.

As regards to carrying a gun part… I am principally against it. I think that makes our society a more dangerous, not a safer place. We need the rule of law to prevail, and people to feel free to approach the police whenever they need to. Both the laws and especially their enforcement should be improved.

Niket, I don’t really mean that people should carry around guns - I am pretty against that too. What I like is the underlying idea of self-defense and not the expectation that the government or police are not the salvation. I really don’t think we have enough of a motovated police force to protect all our citizens.

How do we change the world ?

Can we improve the world by harsher punishments, by breaking families and propagating gender hatred ? Of course, the culprits need to be punished.

The family, brought up environment of a person plays a very big role in what he/she turns out to be. We need to understand that prevention is better than cure.

Attitude is also a problem so far as many men are concerned. But has it ever been considered how gender hatred and male bashing by media and NGOs has led to a dangerous situation in urban india ? Have you ever heard of Legal Abuse of elders in India ?

The only way to change attitude of men is for women to change themselves. They have to marry down, they need to protect and provide for themselves.

A gender war is a very possibility in urban India. I know hundreds of men who hate marriage after what they have gone though with marriage.
http://www.saveindianfamily.com/pages/misuse.html

When, we try to solve social problems with a sense of urgency, we seem to solve them. But in stead we create bigger social problems.

Will not urban gender war leading to large scale divorce and consequent single parenting, create more cases of violence against women after another 15 years ?

Only activism does not help.

Maksim

R*pe is intolerable. Yes, it diminishes as a society modernizes, but like many atavistic horrors, it never completely goes away. Don’t be so quick to dismiss the idea of allowing the people – especially the female half of the people – to keep and bear arms. Maybe 99% in any society are trustworthy and stay within the bounds of law and morality without coercion, but for the remaining 1%, my daughter knows a bit of karate and is a decent shot with long arms (plus she has two large & devoted older brothers). The police cannot arrive instantaneously. Until they do, what objection do you have to self-defense? She will be qualified to carry a handgun before she goes to college.

As we say, better to be judged by 12 than carried by 6.

http://www.saveindianfamily.org/blogs/

http://www.saveindianfamily.org/blogs/?page_id=5

Elders in India are subjected to legal abuse using a Feminist Law.

http://www.saveindianfamily.com/pages/elderabuse.html