at August 16, 2005 4:00 PMHarry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I’m saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
That conversation probably started one of the most enduring cliches of our generation, that men and women cannot remain friends. It has been repeated ad nauseum in other movies and recently in Hum Tum to the point I feel like throwing up when I hear it. Personally, I don’t believe it. It has in fact been kind of the opposite for me - I sometimes have a crush on a cute guy, we get to talking and then we become good friends and the crush disappears. It has never happened to me (except with my husband, of course) where I started out friends with someone and then wanted to sleep with that person. To put it in a cliche, most of the time it was the friendship thing that got in the way of my crushes…What do you guys think?
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Nailed it —- the whole “ek ladka aur ek ladki kabhi sirf dost nahi ban sakte ” is so sick
@mit
Posted by: @mit at August 16, 2005 3:41 PM
I agree - it is more of a pick-up line than the eternal truth a lot of people believe it to be. What can you say!
Posted by: shanti at August 16, 2005 4:00 PM
well i guess for guys its true but for gals its not (whats said in the movie)
Posted by: sourabh at August 16, 2005 4:45 PM
I wudn’t think blunt enough to that extend…I am on that side where a Boy and Girl can be friends and can only be freinds…till the end. A Friendship can mature as LOVE and follow the family way…but as for as our culture says this wont go the opp..way..We been groomed in that culture feels easy with that…
Posted by: Srini at August 17, 2005 5:47 AM
You could have @least been honest. Dont tell me you did not want to sleep with any guy other than your hub!!
Posted by: anonym at August 17, 2005 8:15 AM
Talk about being anonymous and asking for honesty. In your hurry to jump to conclusions, you might have missed the part where I said I have had “crushes” on people that turned into friendships - as far as I know, a crush is a physical attraction to another person. I will not deny I find some guys physically attractive - that is of course, way different from wanting to sleep with another guy. I don’t want to sleep with anyone except my husband otherwise, I wouldn’t stay married to him.
Posted by: shanti at August 17, 2005 8:53 AM
hmmm…i love that movie. but i do hear you on that quote. i don’t think it’s completely true. i do think there is only so far a guy and girl can get friendship-wise and still maintain that non-physical thing. but i think that as you said, in most cases the friendship all but eliminates the desire to be intimate anyway, because you learn enough to realize that the crush is mostly illusion of the person.
and i do agree with you on your point about your husband. i feel the same way. i don’t think guys realize that for women, we don’t necessarily think of guys in terms of “i want to sleep with him”, though i can’t speak for all women, of course. that person was a jerk for dropping in and being nasty.
Posted by: Sarcomical at August 20, 2005 9:54 PM
Er.. am I late to the party?
Posted by: Dilip at August 23, 2005 3:36 PM
Sarcomical, thanks - I wonder if it s woman-thing that we are able to draw a line and stick to it ;)
Dilip - fire away :p
Posted by: shanti at August 23, 2005 3:56 PM
well I know a thing or two about flirting and crushes :-)
However you need to really dig deep into the recesses of your brain to fathom what I am talking about :-) I will leave it to you to draw your own inference.
Posted by: Dilip at August 23, 2005 4:00 PM
Hmmm…let’s see…I still think my post is right :P
Posted by: shanti at August 23, 2005 4:16 PM
I don’t know if we are on the same page yet. If we are, kudos to your impressive memory!
Posted by: Dilip at August 23, 2005 4:18 PM
Thanks for compliments, since I do remember :)
Posted by: shanti at August 23, 2005 4:35 PM